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Your personal best

   Today I want to talk to you about the idea of “doing your best”. It’s so problematic, because it’s so subjective. Some of us will make very little effort towards something, but then claim we did our best, because we know that people can’t technically argue with that. While still others use it as an excuse to judge themselves harshly for not being better at (insert whatever goal here) yet and burn themselves out in the process. So how are we supposed to find out what our real best is, and actually do it?

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How to apologize

   So, we know that nobody’s perfect. And sometimes you’re going to make mistakes that end up hurting other people. When this happens, the best thing to do is to apologize to them, authentically and thoroughly. Apologies are a great human custom. They’re good for the person who made the mistake, and the person who got hurt. They’re even good for everyone on the fringes of the conflict too. They give a chance for the conflict to draw to an official end, with a true solution, and a reconciliation for all involved. What could be better than that? 

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Keeping yourself accountable

   Today we’re going to talk about a concept that’s annoying and exhausting (at least the way most people look at it) which is keeping yourself accountable, for your goals, dreams, and actions. We’ve already laid some pretty good groundwork in this area, which if you haven’t caught up on, I suggest you do that before reading this. You can find a pep talk for the monotony of recovery and goal-setting by clicking here, and you can find my recent discussion on motivation vs. inspiration here. Without further ado, let’s jump into the topic at hand.

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What is mindful eating and will it help me?

   Hello everyone, and welcome back to The Thoughts that Bind. Today we’re talking about food and eating again, our favorite topic. And today, specifically, we’re talking about the lovely practice of mindful eating. Now, we’ve talked about intuitive eating before on this site, and if you haven’t read that discussion, you can find it here. But mindful eating, while an incredibly important part of intuitive eating, can be practiced on its own. So whether you’re from the intuitive eating camp or not, let’s get into it.

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Is personality fixed? (Or even real?)

   I’ve had lots of conversations about personality over the years, especially ones where personality itself wasn’t being discussed specifically, but rather used as a jumping off point to understand a person or situation or what have you. And it wasn’t until recently that I had sort of an epiphany, from yet another conversation, this one being incredibly short. In fact, I’d almost rather class it as an off-handed comment than a conversation, yet it struck me anyway. 

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Expectations of others-My Two Cents

There was a song that we used to sing when I was a little girl, that was accompanied with a hand game or dance or whatever you want to call it. It started like this, “I went to a Chinese restaurant, to buy a loaf of bread, bread, bread, the lady asked what my name was, and this is what I said, said, said” and then it goes on with a long string of nonsense that if I never hear again, it’ll be too soon. But I was thinking about it today. And I don’t know about Chinese restaurants in your area, but in mine, I’ve never seen them selling loaves of bread. 

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