Kindness, but to yourself: my two cents

   We’ve talked about kindness before on this site. You can find that post here, if you’re interested. In it, I talked about how important kindness is, how much we really need it in this world, and how to go about living our lives in a kind way. But one thing was entirely left out of the equation. What about being kind…to yourself? That’s what we’re going to talk about today.

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How to reminisce without making yourself sad

   I want you to sit down for a moment. Now, take a deep breath and remember a time when you felt truly at peace, happy, or excited. You can even close your eyes if you want. Really get into the memory. What were you seeing? Feeling? What about who you were with? Was it hot outside? Try to work up a really vivid memory. And once you have open your eyes. 

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How to discover (and build) your true self

   So recently, we talked about our personal identity. How we pick it up, and how to dismantle the inauthentic parts of ourselves. (If you didn’t read that one, you can find it here.) But once you’ve become aware of the parts of yourself that don’t feel authentic and let them go, how do you discover who you really are, and build up your identity? And so we’re picking the subject back up today. Here’s how to start discovering yourself. 

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Your personal best

   Today I want to talk to you about the idea of “doing your best”. It’s so problematic, because it’s so subjective. Some of us will make very little effort towards something, but then claim we did our best, because we know that people can’t technically argue with that. While still others use it as an excuse to judge themselves harshly for not being better at (insert whatever goal here) yet and burn themselves out in the process. So how are we supposed to find out what our real best is, and actually do it?

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How to apologize

   So, we know that nobody’s perfect. And sometimes you’re going to make mistakes that end up hurting other people. When this happens, the best thing to do is to apologize to them, authentically and thoroughly. Apologies are a great human custom. They’re good for the person who made the mistake, and the person who got hurt. They’re even good for everyone on the fringes of the conflict too. They give a chance for the conflict to draw to an official end, with a true solution, and a reconciliation for all involved. What could be better than that? 

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What is mindful eating and will it help me?

   Hello everyone, and welcome back to The Thoughts that Bind. Today we’re talking about food and eating again, our favorite topic. And today, specifically, we’re talking about the lovely practice of mindful eating. Now, we’ve talked about intuitive eating before on this site, and if you haven’t read that discussion, you can find it here. But mindful eating, while an incredibly important part of intuitive eating, can be practiced on its own. So whether you’re from the intuitive eating camp or not, let’s get into it.

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