A dozen things I learned from my best relationship ever

  So I’ve had a couple relationships, and struggles that came with them. I am now coming to terms with the fact that I am in so much love with someone who, frankly, pushes me to expand how I see life. My partner can be annoying, loving, comforting, and all of the above in the span of a day, and so far this has been the best relationship I have ever had. I’ve learned so much over these past couple years, and I would really like to share some of the lessons with you.

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A Treatise on Normalcy

  Back in the olden days, there were strict rules and expectations on everyone. Young people, old people, regardless of gender or race or anything, there were different sets of expectations that you were supposed to follow. And for the most part, people did. In a way, it was integral to society, that everyone knew what they were going to do and be for their whole life. Some of it was steeped in prejudice, some of it was down to tradition. These days, society as a whole is becoming more tolerant and open-minded.

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Don’t save your love for a rainy day

  Humanity is in an eternal struggle of planning for our future vs. yolo philosophy. (And I’ve written about this before—you can find that piece here.) Basically, it comes down a balanced approach in life. You want to plan for the future in order to move forward in time, but you also need to acknowledge your hopes and dreams in order to live a fulfilled life.

  But there’s a time when you should never be balanced. Never ever try to wait for it to be convenient to express appreciation or love. That beautiful emotion is dangerous let stagnate. The danger, however, is not in what it becomes, but rather, what may never be.

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How to be yourself and live authentically

  Growing up, I had this friend who liked to quote Oscar Wilde. “Be yourself, because everyone else is taken.” She would tell me that over and over again. While it was an important thing to hear as a pre-pubescent, adolescent, the thought built on itself over the years. With the amount of people who are afraid to be themselves, I’m not sure everyone else is taken.

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Self-love vs. Self-improvement: Which is better?

  Self- love has become sort of a buzzword these days, and I’m glad for that because here on the Thoughts that Bind, true self love is a transformative and important journey to undergo. In fact, it informs nearly every post I’ve written on this site. Yet, I feel there are some misconceptions about self-love that are rarely, if ever addressed. It is for this reason that I have chosen to make this article today.

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