Living life as it comes
I can’t stand people who are condescending to the mentally ill. They say things like “can’t you just get over it?” and “you’re overreacting, chill out.” These are people who either lack empathy or have no idea what it’s like to have your mind betray you at every turn. And something these people often imply is that you can just choose to be okay when you’re not. So today let’s look at that. Is it true?
Continue reading “Can you choose your feelings?: My Two Cents”
Hi everyone! A while back, I posted about the inner work necessary in order to improve your emotional health. (If you’re interested about my journey with inner work, you can find that post here.) In that piece, I mentioned that I would be writing about specific mental work in the future. Well, wait no longer because that day is today! And today, we’re talking about the validity of our thoughts.
Continue reading “Believing your thoughts: my two cents”
Hi everyone, and welcome back to the Thoughts that Bind. You may be looking at the title of this post and think it’s incredibly simple. And I agree with you, the concept is simple. But actually putting it into practice is incredibly difficult for many of us. So let’s take a trip down memory lane.
Continue reading “When life is easy, enjoy. When it’s not, go with it.”
Sometimes it’s harder to stand still than it is to take action and stand up for yourself. And today, I want to speak to that, as a skill-an important skill.
Continue reading “Standing still: the quiet side to boundaries”
If you suffer from panic attacks, I’m sorry to hear that. I know how awful it can be. And if you’re having one right now, just breathe and keep reading. I’m going to share with you a technique for helping them calm down.
Continue reading “54321 Panic Attack Help”
Now last week I explained how indoctrinated I was with shame for my body and for self-expression in terms of my wardrobe and moving my body in terms of dance. If you haven’t read that post yet, I’d encourage you to do so before reading this one. Just click here to open it in a new tab. It got to such a fever pitch that I became unable to feed myself sufficiently and avoided looking beautiful out of fear and shame, but I had started to try to pull out of this miserable place, for my own good. And this is where we pick up today. I had started recovery from my eating disorder, and therapy to try to help me make new mental connections and progress toward my goal of self-acceptance.
Continue reading “Unlearning Bodily Hate Pt. 2: The dancer in me”
When I was a little girl, I began to dance. Well, maybe it was just more like swaying, jumping, and twirling around. But I loved how it felt. It wasn’t really in conjunction with any music, but I just loved to move my body in expressive ways. It felt, to me, magical. But I definitely didn’t stay that way forever.
Continue reading “Unlearning Bodily Hate Pt. 1: Picking up shame”
Back in my senior year of high school, I was in a fair amount of therapy. But my main therapist had just left the organization for her dream job, and I was left with someone new.
Continue reading “What are you ready for?”
We live in a world where people make money just by making their life look fab. We want to show the world that we’re awesome too, and that we measure up (we really do). So we tend to try and put on a happy face when we’re struggling. Even when we’re progressing we want to make sure it looks extra doubly amazing. We wish that our whole life would be worthy of a facebook post or an incredible vlog, and we even buy and sell stuff that has the message “no bad days”. Verbatim. Seriously.
And this is a post about that. Because deep down, it’s something that we all know. Not every day is going to be amazing. Not every moment or experience is going to be mind blowing and gorgeous. But on the bad days, those days when you just don’t feel like a rockstar, it doesn’t hurt to be reminded.
Continue reading “It probably won’t be glamorous”
