Category: Mental Mastery

   I hate to be the one to try to push positivity on people who are hurting. All my growing up years, it seemed that anytime I would feel negative emotion, there would be someone telling me why I shouldn’t feel that way. Or why I didn’t have to. Why I was wrong or should be looking on the bright side. 

   And now, years later, I still very much dislike the reaches of toxic positivity. I’ve covered it before on this site, I think it’s very important to acknowledge and fully feel our feelings—even the ones that present as negative. In my opinion, the only way we can work through these feelings is by acknowledging them for what they are and letting ourselves feel them. This is the beginning of the real emotional work, not denial. And if you want to learn more about this subject, I recommend reading my post about it here. 

   Have you ever heard the saying “sticks and stones can break my bones but words will never hurt me”? It’s an old one that people say all the time. And I get it, people want to show that they can be strong. Stronger than what others might say. But I don’t think it’s wise to discredit the power of words. 

   Hello, and welcome back to the Thoughts that Bind. I recently had a realization of something that is a common thing touted in self-help, and I thought, why not talk about it? So today, we’re talking about the mindset shift behind thinking “What can you do?”