Advice for young people: How to look at life

   Recently, I was looking back on my early days of having moved out of my parent’s house. I certainly wasn’t prepared for what the outside world would bring me, and the more I’ve gotten to know others who’ve done the same, the more I think that that’s pretty normal. There’s no way of me knowing what your parents have and haven’t prepared you for, but there are still many things that I would try to make sure newly independent young adults check in with. And so I want to talk to all you young people who are considering finally moving out, or who have recently done so. I have a lot of advice for you! Some is from me and my experience, and much of it is from conversations I’ve had with others about things they wish they would have been told. But I hope that as a whole, it can bring you some useful perspective.

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Don’t be yourself

   We tell people all the time, “Oh, just be yourself!” It’s both advice and encouragement, and it’s pervasive. Especially when we’re talking to people that we like, or people who we deem impressionable. I’m no different. Even here on the Thoughts that Bind, I’ve written a piece to that effect. (You can find that here, if you’re interested. It’s a fairly quick read.) And yet today, we’re going to do the opposite–I’m going to challenge you not to be yourself. Sounds odd at first blush, right? Well, bear with me.

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