Pessimism or Realism?
Sometimes, it can be easy to fall into pessimism. We like to call ourselves “realists”, and say that we are simply facing facts. We all have dreams, but we don’t think they’re realistic and so we give up or don’t pursue them in the first place.
And what’s wrong with facing facts? We want to be grounded in reality, after all. If we don’t stay grounded, won’t we be made fun of, or even hated? Most of all, we won’t be able to move forward when we have a life based on fantasy, right?
The Truth about Fantasy
Not really. Everyone’s life is partially made up of fantasy, even the most committed pragmatists. It’s easy enough to think “not me”, but how can you see your own blind spots? Maybe you think you’re good with people, but you’re really not, or maybe you think you’re bad at drawing, when you actually have talent. Regardless, we all have our own delusions.
If this is true, for some, pessimism seems the way to go. “I’d rather be wrong and happy than wrong and sad.” I used to say this all the time. It made so much sense at the time, and in a twisted way I was trying to practice optimism- I would either be happy with a situation, or right about it which made me happy.
Why I Needed Pessimism
I think more than anything, it was an immature view. Mostly I was trying to protect myself from disappointment, because I didn’t know how to handle it. But dealing with disappointment is a part of growing up.
I always knew myself to be a more pessimistic person, but I didn’t see a reason to change. All those people who were so optimistic all the time were annoying to me. I didn’t want to be annoying to other people. (Of course I didn’t realize pessimists are annoying to positive people.)
I absolutely love this!! Keep at it girl! Your great! 💕